Civil Wedding Ceremony
(This ceremony takes 8-15 minutes, depending upon whether you have unity candles, Rose ceremony , other readings etc.
We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life's greatest moments,
to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our
best wishes to the words which shall unite_______________________ and
____________________________ in marriage.
Should there be anyone who has cause why this couple should not be
united in marriage, they must speak now or forever hold their peace.
(If the bride is escorted forward)
Who is it that brings this woman to this man?
(The father, children, relative etc. may give the bride away. He /they
answer "I do", This person then steps back and the groom takes
the bride's hand.)
____________________ and _______________________ , I would ask that you
both remember to treat yourself and each other with respect, and remind
yourself often of what brought you together today. Give the highest
priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your marriage
deserves. When frustration and difficulty assail your marriage - as
they do to every relationship at one time or another - focus on what
still seems right between you, not only the part that seems wrong. This
way, when clouds of trouble hide the sun in your lives and you lose
sight of it for a moment, you can remember that the sun is still there.
And if each of you will take responsibility for the quality of your
life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.
(Vows used unless other vows are wished. See Alternative vows . You may change the vows as you wish or write your own.)
(Groom ) ________________, do you take _______________ to he your
Wife? ("I do") Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect her,
forsaking all others and holding only unto her forevermore?
(Bride ________________, do you take __________________ to be your
Husband? ("I do") Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect
him, forsaking all others and holding only unto him forevermore? "(I
(If rings are exchanged each does so before repeating the following
vows - unless you wish other vows or do not wish to repeat vows. It is
not required that a couple exchange rings.)
(Groom) I _____________, take thee, ________________ to be my Wife- To
have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer,
in joy and sorrow and I promise my love to you.
If Rings are exchanged - ("With this ring, I take you as my wife, for as long as we both shall live")
(Bride ) I _________________, take thee ______________, to be my
Husband. To have and to hold, in sickness and in health , for richer or
for poorer, in joy and sorrow, and I promise My love to you.
If Rings are exchanged - ("With this ring, I take you as my husband, for as long as we both shall live.")
(If there are children of either couple, sometimes couples will give a
ring or small gift such as a necklace or ring to the child and say a
short statement that they also are now part of the new family. I
believe it very important to mention children's names in the ceremony,
If you have minor children coming into the marriage, please provide
their names so I will mention them as is appropriate.)
____________________________ and ___________________________ as the two
of you come into this marriage uniting you as husband and wife, and as
you this day affirm your faith and love for one another, I would ask
that you always remember to cherish each other as special and unique
individuals, that you respect the thoughts, ideas and suggestions of
one another. Be able to forgive, do not hold grudges, and live each day
that you may share it together - as from this day forward you shall be
each other's home, comfort and refuge, your marriage strengthened by
your love and respect for each other.
Just as two threads woven in opposite directions will form a most
beautiful tapestry, so too can your two lives merged together make a
beautiful marriage. To make your relationship work will take love. This
is the core of your marriage and why you are here today. It will take
trust , to know in your hearts that you truly want the best for each
other. It will take dedication, to stay open to one another - and to
learn and grow together. It will take faith, to go forward together
without knowing exactly what the future brings. And it will take
commitment, to hold true to the journey you both pledge today to share
(If unity candles are used - optional. If the Rose Ceremony is used, it
is placed after the unity candle ceremony or in place of it.)
UNITY CANDLE CEREMONY (this is not required)
____________________ and _____________________, the two separate
candles symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate
sets of friends. I ask that each of you take on of the lit candles and
that together you light the center candle.
The individual candles represent your lives before today. Lighting the
center candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one
light, and represents the joining together of your two families and
sets of friends to one.
(You can also involve children in the unity candle ceremony - click here)
(For couples who are adding music to the ceremony, it is usually placed either here or after the vows are repeated earlier.)
(THE ROSE CEREMONY MAY BE ADDED AT THIS POINT IF YOU WISH. This beautiful addition is on this site.)
________________________ and _________________________, in so
much as the two of you have agreed to live together in Matrimony, have
promised your love for each other by these vows, the joining of your
hands and the giving of these rings, I now declare you to be Husband
Congratulations, you may kiss your bride.
It is my privilege to present to you Mr. & Mrs. _______________________________